I recently had a conversation with a colleague about her ‘crazy’ sister-in-law who won’t let her kids (or the visiting kids) have a soda. My colleague thought this was a little over the top and that there was nothing wrong with having a soda now and then. While I confess that I have on occasion let my son have a soda, usually at a birthday party or other celebration hosted by others, I did have an answer for her and came to the defense of the unseen crazy sister-in-law (takes one to know one, right?).
The Sister-in-law’s defense your honor is a matter of the bar. Not the legal bar exam to become a lawyer, but the bar which is a standard or expectation to which we, or the foods we put in our mouths, all must rise. When someone raises the bar then they are increasing the expectations.
When someone drinks a soda their expectations for what is considered sweet just got thrown at the ceiling. Splat! Will it fall on someone’s head like a wet wad of toilet paper from the school bathroom ceiling? Yes. It will fall on the heads of parents everywhere who are trying to keep reduce the amount of sugar their kids consume…. and perhaps struggling with their own sugar consumption as well.
Consider this – most people would agree that fruit is sweet. Kids even like it, or they used to. I am amazed by how many kids come over to ‘hang out’ (my son is now too old to play) who refuse a piece of fruit. They don’t like fruit. Now, surely there are people with fruit preferences and allergies or a particular fruit that just doesn’t a-peel (harhar)….. but I have to stop myself from saying, “What do you mean you don’t like fruit? What’s not to like about fruit? What DO you like?”
Candy, soda, sugar – then throw in some chips
Gimme candy, soda, sugar – right past my numbed out lips
When you drink a can of soda that has
39 g (about 10 tsp) of sugar in a 12 ounce can of cola;
23 g (almost 6 tsp) in an 8 ounce serving of minute maid orange juice;
the 23g in an 8 ounce serving of snapple lemon iced tea;
the 33g (over 8 tsp) in a 20 ounce bottle of vitaminwater….. isn’t that supposed to taste kind of like water?
Then don’t you think the following will seem a little less than sweet to your palate?:
9 g of sugar (about 2 tsp) in a serving of pineapple;
7 g (less than 2 tsp)in aserving of strawberries
17g (a bit more than 4 tsp) in 1 large banana
11g (almost 3 tsp) in a cup of apple slices
With or without scientific evidence, we all know that comparisons affect what we eat. You get used to Starbuck’s coffee and then some other coffees start to taste a bit weak. You eat lots of salty chips and you will probably find yourself reaching for the salt shaker more often when eating potatoes or eggs or other bland salt vehicles. It’s the old Ka-Pow theory of the Sis Sisters – as we increase the amount of sugar (or salt for that matter) we feel constitutes the description ‘sweet’, a little less just doesn’t register as sweet anymore. And sweet is oh so powerful….. it attracts more flies than vinegar after all and it is what little girls are made of along with spice and everything nice. Or perhaps big girls like sweets so much because we never felt as sweet as we were supposed to be….. okay, I’m coming back, that’s another post entirely.
Back to kids and sugar. By the time most kids finish the load of candy in their Easter basket there will be some other occasion to inundate them with candy. In fact they’ll probably be given some at school next week, or at a meeting or gathering of some sort – along with some soda or juice to drink… or water with flavor (chemical crap) in it. Is it any wonder that they are not interested in fruit?
So how strict should you be with your kid about sugar? It’s a heck of an uphill battle, but preserving their ability to taste the sweetness in real food will shape what they choose to eat. Sometimes you just have to draw the line somewhere…. I definitely draw the line at soda. I do not provide soda for my son and his friends. Perhaps someday he will go hog wild and drink a bunch of soda…. but he will know just how horrifically, un-naturally sweet it is, and hopefully the rebellion won’t last so long as to re-set his sugar bar. Unfortunately it doesn’t take much of a miss to bump that pole up a little higher!
Mind you – we are all about Baby Steps even when it comes to kids and sugar – and perhaps especially when it comes to kids and sugar. Work it down and work it out a bit at a time, hopefully with their agreement for lasting effects.